PUNISHMENTS & REWARDS

Talking to a parent the other day, who was having a few little problems with her teenagers. Nothing major or really bad but still it needed correcting. The children were forgetting that they were not adults yet and they still had to treat their parents with respect and do the couple of chores that were their jobs. The mother was saying to me, how the children did not realise how lucky they were, well they could not know as they had had everything from when they were born. She did come up with some ideas though.

The children complained about emptying the dishwasher, so it was turned off! They had to wash up by hand, a very good lesson to be learned.

They had their mobile phones taken off them when they walked in the door, if they wanted to phone someone it had to wait until after 6 or at weekends, as that was when it was free on their line rental deal.

They had laptops, iPads and iPhones taken off them and there was just 1 laptop on the table which they could use for homework and they had to take turns for that.

Shopping was always done by Mum on line as she also worked everyday, that was stopped and the children had to add on to the list when something had run out or they needed something. Then on a Saturday they had to go shopping with Mum and Dad, help to pack at the till, load car and then when they got home they had to put it all away. They now new where everything was kept and just how time consuming shopping is and actually quiet boring.

They always had sandwiches for lunch on Saturdays so the children took it in turns to make the lunch and tidy up.

The cleaner was cancelled so once a week they had to Hoover, dust and change beds.

It they had completed all homework and jobs they were allowed out but only until 8 as then they had to read to the younger children or parents. Then bedtime, no TV during the week, so reading, writing, cards or board games.

I asked the parent how it had gone, she gave me the look and said she almost gave up at the beginning but her husband had said “no they have got to realise just how lucky they are and how hard we and their grandparents had it, when we were growing up.”

Their house has gone back to normal now but the difference in the children is very noticeable and I believe they have learnt a very valuable life lesson.

What a brilliant idea and so true the children of today are so lucky but they need to know just how lucky they are.

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