SPOILT OR LOVED?

Christmas is creeping upon us, the children have written their letters for Santa and we are all thinking about presents, food, where we are going or who we are inviting. Christmas for children has changed so much with presents becoming far more expensive as they all want the latest best toy, it doesn’t even have to be an electrical gadget to be expensive even the latest doll or Lego set are all very expensive. Do we now just buy two or three expensive presents they have asked for and explain that they cost a lot of money or do we carry on buying until their sack is over flowing like they expect each year? Why do they expect that, because parents have started something that they cannot stop. Have we set the bar to high to begin with so as they grow up there are less and less things that they want or need?

How many children get an orange or chocolate coin in their stockings and say thank you for them or even want them? The children appear to be divided into the ones that have everything, the ones that just get their one main present and other small things they have asked for and then the ones that get hardly anything. The difference is now the children all mix together so they grow up knowing who has everything and the ones that do not, how does this affect the development and social awareness of the child? Do the ones that get everything then grow up up to expect everything they want out of life to be theirs and not have to work for it?

We always aim to be a better parent than our own parents so therefor we give more than we had, we make opportunities easily available and we are permanent taxis until they learn to drive which we then pay for and buy the first car. If they had to earn the money for the car would they look after it better and not drive too fast? How do parents know if they are loving their children and being the best parents ever or are they spoiling them so much that they won’t appreciate anything and don’t even think they are good parents anyway.

Do you think children are loved?

Do you think children are spoilt?

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7 thoughts on “SPOILT OR LOVED?

  1. Unfortunately Christmas has become over commercialised and as a result the never-ending saga of buying more toys etc has become a farce. I don’t believe that this is good for anyone, parents put themselves in debt in many households and thus adding to the everyday stresses of living, in what has become a greedy country.

    I remember when I was a youngster enjoying Christmas and not feeling as though I had missed out on anything, today the children expect an endless supply of presents not realising the cost and later heartache it produces, but where does it all end? I think that Christmas needs to reflect on the real Christmas spirit and not a war on what child gets what and how much one can spend on the plastic, the Christmas times of yesteryear have been swamped by ridiculousness and it gets worse every year.

    A lot can be blamed on advertising, and also how quickly the shops add their stock, we are no sooner out of one festivity and another is introduced, for instance Halloween products have been added to shops well before the time and Christmas gifts are in abundance, the essence of christmas has been replaced by greed, and it gets worse every year 😦

    Have a lovely Thursday Nanny Cool 😉

    Andro xxxx

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  2. This is such a thought provoking post…so many questions that are difficult to answer. I think all parents want the best for their children, but often the lines are blurred and what’s best becomes materialistic items, high end electronics, etc. In the U.S. they refer to it as “Keeping up with the Joneses”…buying things for yourself or your children because everyone else is buying the best. Many go into major credit card debt in order to keep up with their friends and neighbors. It’s a vicious cycle that I don’t believe instills the proper values in a child. Growing up, I never lacked for anything, but my parents didn’t buy me everything I asked for just because my friend’s parents did. During the holidays, I think it’s more important to teach children the importance of giving and doing for others. Great post! 🙂

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  3. A very good and though provoking blog Nanny Cool. Strangely a friend and I were discussing just this at the Bowls Club dinner I attended last Saturday evening. She had been to her granddaughter’s birthday party and there were so many presents the child almost lost interest – and even the party bags for the little guests to take home contained more than would have been the actual present for the birthday girl/boy when my children were little. Then guests went home with a balloon, a sweetie and a piece of birthday cake in their party bag. The parties were at home with things like tiny Marmite sandwiches, jelly and iced-gems!

    I do think most children are loved – but I think it’s sometimes confused when parents (or grandparents) feel they have to spoil them to show their love. I still think what children really want is your time spent with them, which is where grandparents often come into the picture these days.

    To me personally Christmas is a time to celebrate the birth of Christ, a tiny baby who had nothing but a manger and a bed of straw that Christmas Day. xx

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