MAKE THE EFFORT!

How many times do we say that we are going to keep in touch with people, then you realise a few months have gone by and before you know it you are sending the obligatory Christmas card again and you still have not met up with them?   One of my new year resolutions was to see friends more and not get stuck in the same rut like most years.  It really makes you think though when friends do not live that far away and you end up not seeing them for years, why do we do that?  Are our lives really that full these days?  Are we lazy, can’t be bothered?  I think my answer is that I do like my own space and prefer to be on my own, doing what I want and by that I mean if I am having a few bad days and in pain then it is a few jama days or I am writing, reading or just sitting in the garden.  I see my grandchildren every week also face time them, I seem to get worn out just listening to them sometimes and I look back and am amazed at what I used to get done with three small children.  

I met up with a friend I went to school with, after talking for a bit we worked out that it was 20 years since we had seen each other and we live under an hour away from each other!  How mad is that but we also both said that we just did not realise it was that long and when they come up on FaceBook you think about them and say to yourself, I must go see them.  

It was a very good two and a half hours chatting in the cafe though and remembering school days, friends and what we got up to.  We both left school at 16 and got jobs, I was saving to move out and we went on a day trip to Westgate on Sea near Margate, Kent as that was where I was going to move to…..I had had a couple of good holidays there and first love summer romance so it was the place I was heading!   Picture not very clear but that was me.

 

I never did get there as met another boy who was to become my husband and moved in with him, but that is another story.  

The last year at school was fun, I had a crush on a teacher and after seeing the picture of him again the other day I am not sure what I was thinking and his name was Mr Lamb…….I bet there would be a few jokes going round school today with that name, Lol but I guess it was better than Mr Pringle!!!!    I will save you from the photo of them but this is the four friends Karen, Michelle, Mary and Wendy.  Why do you never believe people when they say these are the best days of your life? As they really are,  I did also like the skiving off to go down to Mote Park swimming pool as the life guards were rather hot too, I remember a teacher driving past us and we all ran away so fast and we never got caught. Happy memories and a great time spent with an old friend and we really are not going to leave it so long before we do it again. 

 

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7 thoughts on “MAKE THE EFFORT!

  1. I became friends with someone I met in a women’s group. We kept in touch regularly, meeting up once a month for dinner, brunch, outings or whatever. We would sit and chat for hours effortlessly but when we incorporated Facebook into our friendship the entire relationship changed. Daily/regular posts abouts our lives somehow eliminated the need to meet up in person as often but we still kept in touch.

    The efficiency of modern technology is interfering with our ability to develop proper social skills since we are now spending so much time alone, and learning to like being the master of our own domain.

    In addition pretty much everything can be delivered, and even checks can be deposited from a smartphone eliminating the need to venture ‘out’.

    Now with so much I can do from home, I too have started to adopt a ‘why-bother’ attitude – – not that I don’t like keeping in touch, it’s just a lot of work for which I don’t always have time.

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    • Thank you for this comment and I will use it in my next post as you have opened up another point, that has in fact social media also made us lazy and housebound? I agree with what you are saying but from another point of view, I am not well a lot of days so social media keeps me in touch with people everyday and also I get support from my friends. Very interesting subject. Xxx

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      • Great point! Social Media was made to make it easier for us to stay in touch as many of us spread our wings in search of our own endeavours, careers etc. But the side effect is the ‘laziness factor’. Just like medicine was made to solve particular ailments, those good results often come with side-effects. Great topic! Look forward to your followup post 🙂

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  2. It is easy to get into the habit of just pleasing yourself. I know there are days I have to force myself to get dressed because I get so engrossed in the computer. At one time I’d get engrossed in writing but I had Ju to motivate me to move.now it’s a case of ‘Why bother’ half the time unless like you I’m seeing my grandson .
    You have to make an effort though or you won’t be able to taunt us with the cakes and the meals you and your gadabout pals go for.
    Have a great weekend.
    xxx Huge Hugs xxx

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    • The good thing about social media is that it keeps you in touch so you don’t have to go out. Good or bad I guess it’s up to each individual. I will keep going for lunch once a month as we have such fun, and you have to eat, right xx

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